Seeking Coastal Utopia

We all do it. I am really good at it. I make excuses like a champ. “this is a pile of books I said I would read but didn’t” photo by Annie Spratt on  Unsplash Too many times I find myself in a situation, trying to rationalize why I did not complete a particular task. I may even spend more time trying to formulate an excuse for not completing a task than it would be for me just to go ahead and do the activity. Or I said I was “done” but, maybe 67% is not done . Does this sound familiar? I highly doubt that I am the only person that does this. So how do we break out of that self-sabotaging behavior? It is time to own it. Own that activity. You made the mistake of saying “yes” or “I will do that” or any other positive affirmation when someone asks you to do something. We just do not know how to say NO and we have a list of 214 things that need to be completed by tomorrow. When you say “yes”, you immediately realized in the back of your cluttered mind that you w...

“aerial view of bridge with cars crossing” by Fahrul Azmi on  Unsplash I love generalities because it makes it easier for the simple human mind to focus and work on items when they are categorized in nice boxes. Make the math easier. Makes it easier to eat elephants. Recognize that now you are reading through this, your filter is going to show the rule of threes to you everywhere. You will also find that these “rules” will make things easier, flow better, and even provide results sooner. The Rule of Threes happens to be my favorite guideline for all things, for all time. The Rule of Threes shows up everywhere — in work and life. Most certainly because my mental filter is set to find those patterns, yet nevertheless, it works and makes better sense of the world. The Rule of Threes makes it easier to get stuff accomplished by helping understand the ratios of requirements for different subjects or how to approach work. You can use it for estimations, allocations, resource ...

How many times have you heard this? Dude, I work 60 hours all the time. OR I have been working straight from 6AM to 6PM. Everyday. Really? Being AT work versus WORKING are two disparate remarks. Just because someone is AT work does not always mean that they are working. How often do you see someone at work wasting time? Socializing, chatting with their coworkers or cubemates, standing around, sitting in meetings but not participating? Sure, they are at work, but not physically (or actively) working. It happens quite often. I suspect that these same people who claim these massive schedules, wearing them like badges of honor, always have all their work done? Or claim that they have SO MUCH WORK they are drowning. Man, I am Busy Dude. Crazy Busy. More work, less talk. GO DO. Quit slacking off. Do your work and GO HOME. Additionally, many businesses say that they want to be more flexible and be more edgy. They say they want people to have a more flexible work-life schedule. Yet c...